SDAM

1st person vs, 3rd person view

I've been scanning through my memory 'still photos' (for the most part, I lack episodic videos), and I've noticed that almost every memory is in the third person / 'floating camera' view. The exceptions are moments that are very unique, thrilling, or terrifying.

I found a suicide jumper under a bridge on the way to work one day. This memory is in 1st person. The memories are 'still captures' though, no video.

I was nearly in a horrific car accident. We hit black ice on the on ramp, spun around 180 degrees, and hit the median. I recall seeing thru my own eyes as we approached the barrier.

As a high school kid, I walked across a metal pipe balance beam in a local park. The drop was about 15 - 20 feet down to stone. I have a 'still image' of the pipe…

Vocabulary.

I have approximately 9 years of post high school education, and can read with comprehension at a fairly high level. However, my daily vocabulary is not that broad. It's difficult for me to recall unfamiliar words on the fly. When I listen to podcasters, I'm always surprised by their verbal depth and breadth.

Is this your experience as well?

I just learned about SDAM three days ago. It explains so much!

How come I can't remember who my groomsmen were, or the birth of my daughter? And yet, I can remember the births of my sons (not really; I remember seeing photos that I took at the time).

Why am I content to be a furniture salesman with no future aspirations?

My dad died July 3 during the COVID shutdown of 2020. But I almost forgot it this year, and am sure that I forgot it last year (maybe?).

I don't remember walking the stage at my high school or college graduations, and NEVER even realized this lack of memory until I started trying to remember things this week.

I've never been able to remember names. And my return customers from two days ago are usually unrecognizable until a coworker whispers, They were here last week.

I'm wondering about the relationship of SDAM to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. I'm an INFP. Always have been.

INFP's are known for their living in the present. It's peaceful not being dragged down by past regrets or personal losses, or frustrated by Siren visions of the future. I just live today.

Also, in the same vein, I'm an Enneagram 9 with a 1 wing.

Anybody else out there an INFP?